Attracting The Friendships You Deserve

by guest blogger Victoria Schon, holistic health & sound practitioner

Healthy friendships have become extremely important to me. Like all of us, I’ve had some good friendships, and I’ve had some toxic friendships. Each relationship taught me a lot. Especially the strenuous ones. And over the years, I learned to set boundaries and I learned to let go of relationships that no longer nourished me. I also learned to love unconditionally, hold off on judging, and how to offer support and strength in the darkness. I’ve bonded deeply with women who I imagined would be in my life forever. But my lifelong struggle with anxiety caused me to feel not quite good enough for the kind of meaningful friendship I desired.

I couldn’t experience a deeper quality of friendship until I recognized and honored my own self-worth. It wasn’t until after I healed myself naturally of anxiety and did the deep spiritual work that released me and I began to feel deserving again. I began to live each day as my authentic, often flawed self with a more open heart. I didn’t experience the intense beauty of friendship until I started to honor myself and believe that I was deserving. Then I was amazed at who and what I attracted into my life.

Just recently, I began coordinating a very special upcoming event for women at Verapose Yoga & Meditation House. It will be our first annual Summer Solstice Celebration. I asked two new friends and one old friend to join me in planning because it was a bit more than I could manage on my own. Each friend enthusiastically said yes, happily for me, even though they didn’t really know each other. I felt like a dinner party hostess, when you choose carefully who to invite, hoping they all get along. You’re never quite sure how things will turn out.

But, the first time we all met, I was overcome with a sense of gratitude and awe. As I sat at our meeting table upstairs in the Verapose Cooperative office space, facing each of them and making introductions, I was compelled to speak about something I felt deep in my heart: This was a pivotal moment in each of our lives. I had this “gut feeling” and an awareness that because we each feel passionately about serving and supporting the women in our community, we were uniquely and divinely linked in that moment. To my delight, it was a connection we all felt. By the end of our first meeting, we were hugging and expressing our appreciation for each other. This has been a deeply felt bond that I have never experienced before, nor so quickly within our small group. That day we made a commitment to each other and to our friendship, and it’s been a pleasure plotting and planning with these beautiful women, and I know our friendship will continue to grow beyond this event. I’ve also noticed that I am blossoming into a better version of myself around these women.

As I have been reflecting on my new circle of friends, I am struck by how supportive and kind we are to each other. How we are “showing up” every single time for each other with an open and generous heart. That we inspire each other, and we offer support for each other as we experience life’s challenges. We have attracted each other into our lives, and it feels wonderful, healthy and purposeful.

I hope you will join us on June 21st for this very special friendship experience as we celebrate with women our Summer Solstice at Verapose Yoga. I am quite sure new friendships will unfold and existing bonds will blossom. And don’t forget to bring your beautiful, authentic, flawed self!